How we usually pray when it comes to relationships:
- Lord, I want one! Send me someone!
- Lord, fix him/her. They are driving me crazy.
- Lord, why did you stick me with them? Could I not have an easier spouse/child/friend?
- Lord, guide this fight so I don’t have to admit how wrong I really was.
- Lord, please don’t let them discover my secret.
I know God hears our prayers, but to make progress in life, maybe we need to pray differently:
- Lord, help me understand before I defend.
- Lord, let me see where this person is wounded. Let me treat their wounds with grace.
- Lord, make me aware of my own issues in this relationship.
- Lord, give me courage to raise issues that need to be talked about.
- Lord, give me courage to be vulnerable with feelings and emotions. Deliver me from stereotypes of needing to be strong when the most authentic thing to do is to weep.
- Lord, give me strength to stand fast in tough times.
- Lord, heal my own hurt so I do not hurt someone with it.
- Lord, give me love so I may love when I do not feel love.
- Lord, show me the joy that is possible in this relationship.
- Lord, no matter how this relationship turns out, I will remember to put my trust in you.
- Lord, show me how I actually come across, not just how I think I come across.
- Lord, teach me to be generous in this relationship.
I wonder how your relationships would change if we prayed differently?
- Maybe there would less blame and less shame.
- Maybe there would be less intensity in conflict.
- Maybe there would be a surrender of the need to make things even.
- Maybe there would be a drawing closer.
- Maybe there would be greater peace when someone turned away.
- Maybe there would be less anxiety about the future.
- Maybe our souls would be more secure, because our security would in our Father, not in someone else.
What relationship in your life needs a different prayer?