When You Hear You are a Failure

Someone soon will tell you you failed.

It maybe your spouse, telling you  you let them down.  Your child may tell you you are a bad parent.  It might be your boss telling you the project you sweated over isn’t good enough.  You might get a paper with that big red “F.”

Nobody likes to be a failure, unless they have something pretty wrong with them.  So what do you do when you hear you are a failure?

  1. Acknowledge the truth.  You are not perfect.  Maybe you failed as a spouse, a parent, or an employee.  This requires humility and honesty.
  2. Ask yourself, “What can I learn?”  Every failure teaches  you about yourself.  It also teaches you about other people.
  3. Tell yourself “Failure is not my identity.”
  4. If you are a follower of Jesus, remind yourself that nothing, not even failure separates your from the love of Jesus.
  5. Most people repeat failure because they don’t fully embrace the pain the first time.  Face into the pain, let it motivate you to not make the mistake again.
  6. Don’t use failure as stick to beat yourself up.  That means you are not learning, but letting the failure define you.

“Failures are finger posts on the road to achievement.” – C.S. Lewis


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