Stop thinking of sex as an appetite. You are more than an appetite; you are a soul. Because God made you with an ability to decide, you can decide to take control of sexual habits and appetites.
Make a commitment for sex to be force in your life that draws you closer to your spouse.
Recognize that sex outside of marriage always complicates the relationship.
Sex in marriage under God reflects the fruit of the Spirit: love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,gentleness and self-control. Sex is a powerful gift to attack your selfishness.
Pray at least weekly, if not daily, “God, make me wise about sex and my sexuality.”